Click a Date

Tuesday, February 05, 2008

Click a date

Technology has provided you with more than a fair chance of finding your 'soul mate', far away or nearby, with just a few lines of personal information and a 'submit' button.

If you are up to finding a date online, numerous online dating sites have mushroomed all over the Internet, so your ideal date could be just a click away!

Some dating sites offer you the chance of finding enduring love while others simply offer satisfaction in the form of consenting sexual partners. (Pay attention to the sites that offer enduring love -- you may find out that most of its members are out for sexual satisfaction first...)

Whichever way you choose to go, just remember that the choice is yours and whatever you decide to do, as long as you are happy, nobody else can be a better judge.

This is also a recommended step for those who feel that they are fed up with the conventional methods of dating and are in the mood for trying something new.

If you have tried meeting people through support groups, friends, even blind dates and none of those has worked for you, then why not give this a shot?

Cupid strikes in ways you never expect, but do try to keep your options open and have minimal expectations. When you convince yourself that you will definitely meet the love of your life this way, and it doesn't happen, the only broken heart that's going to be around is yours.

A few tips though:

First, be careful of the information you reveal and don't trust people you 'meet' online too quickly. Yes, the world is supposed to be full of love and all things nice like that, but there are more than a few schemers who are out to make a quick buck.

Some of these sites allow 'online chats' to be carried out within the site whilst others require you to exchange information with regards to your Yahoo Messenger, Google Chat, MSN Messenger or Skype address.

If you are uncomfortable with how the person speaks or if you feel the person is being too pushy, you must always remember that saying NO to them is as simple as a delete button.

Most sites and chats allow the "block" function, so use it to be rid of annoyances.

Give yourself as much time as you need to meet your potential "one" and, more than anything else,

Use such sites in a careful manner, always keeping your safety very clearly in mind:

Considering that these are people that you are 'meeting' for the first time, caution is to be practiced, as it would be in any other situation.

Personal phone numbers and addresses should be avoided long enough for you to get to know that this person is genuine in what he or she wants from you or until you are comfortable enough to share this information.

Bank account information or credit card details are a complete no-no. At the most, you may need to reveal this information when signing up for the site itself, but other than that, never tell anyone.

Some sites such www.perfectmatch.com require you to make payment to be eligible to make contact with your matches while others, like www.match.com, www.friendfinder.com, www.matchmaker.com, are free of charge, whilst still others require only men to pay for their membership registration.

There is no necessity whatsoever to reveal any kind of personal financial information when chatting or corresponding with someone you have met on the site. On the contrary, being paranoic is a good thing when dealing with people on the 'Net

You can, if you want, do an online search to find the site that best suits your dating preferences by typing in your browser the words 'online dating', at www.google.com or even browsing http://www.100bestdatingsites.com

And yes, the billing for these sites does appear on your credit card statements unless they specify that it doesn't. So, if you are carrying a supplementary card or you do not want anyone else to see that you are using these sites, then this may not be the ideal way for you to go.

For some people, the notion that you have to pay to become a member reflects a higher standard of whom you may potentially meet, although you must remember that this is not always the case.

Someone who has money to pay for website membership is not necessarily different from someone who doesn't have funds! They all share one thing in common, which is that they have switched their preferences to online dating instead of going through the normal motions of traditional dating.

If you would like to date someone in the physical form for Valentine's Day, then of course selecting a destination near you would be beneficial, whereas if you prefer keeping your dating activity online, then click away at all the destinations in the world.

First dates are also best conducted in reasonably public places and if possible, be sure to pick a place that you know well, in case there is an emergency and you need help.

Also, when meeting an online buddy it is usually best to tell a friend that you are meeting them, and where the meeting will take place. Some people might think that this is somehow not 'cool', good only for kids, not for adults, but it is better to be safe than sorry.

What a person types in their computer to create your impression of him or her could be an entirely different picture from reality. "I eat healthy food and exercise 3 times a week" is very easy for even the laziest, most overweight person to type into their machine!

Online dating is also sometimes an opportunity for bored married folk to seek a little outside pleasure, and getting yourself involved in such a situation is hardly likely to help your heart to mend. Be sure you are comfortable with the person's background before agreeing to anything.

Considering that you will need to

sign up with the website,
get to know the person online, and then, eventually,
meet the person,

this is not an ideal method of finding someone if you're in a rush. This is without taking into account that there may not be anyone who captures your attention on the site, and that you would require time to actually go out with these people before Valentine's Day as well.

And, who knows? Maybe in a couple of years, you will most likely be meeting your special someone in person anyway?

So, remember that there are no limits to where online dating can take you, but that this can work out to be either an advantage, or a disadvantage with dire repercussions.

Love is in the air, just like spring, and it will come to each of us at the right time.

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